Due to this obsessive pursuit of self-fulfillment and the endless will for freedom, a society of non-commitment and the inability to keep up a relationship is predicted. Reasons for this non-committing Mingle mentality are given many, but the main one is probably the fear to exclude better opportunities or to miss something when seriously committing to a person. Just as the partner market now functions according to the capitalist ideas of society, the constant optimization tendency has also enforced the field of love. 

In the current society, everything is rapidly changing all the time and you have many options.#ephemeral As a result of that, also the circumstances for the field of love are getting rearranged and obviously there is a need or a relevancy to define this changes in relationships.

The apparently endless offer of online-dating opportunities like ‘Tinder’ is conveying a great freedom, a feeling that there will be someone better and better only a click or swipe away. Through social networks and dating apps we have an extended offer to potential partners and that can be overcharging. Nowadays you have the awareness of these potential partners like you never had before and an enormous progress is that you have the possibility to meet people you would never have met before in equal circumstances in the ‘offline world’. 

In comparison to the interpersonal dating context online-dating or apps, are characterized by their independency of space and time, so you can work on your dream-partner whenever you get a WLAN access. You can meet people with different socio-demographic and socio-cultural backgrounds and especially make use of the anonymity that is offered to the users. Tinder and online dating-users can decide for themselves which details they want to disclose in the web-based interaction and how they want to represent themselves.¹ #blackbox 

Besides the simplification to get to know someone via online-dating there is a big criticism for swipe apps like ‘tinder’, I would join myself to. Tinder has offered a place to do things we always do online but don’t want to admit to: make judgments based on looks and handle your sexuality as a game.² It praises that dating is a process of physical attraction, which only allows time for a Like at ‘Facebook’, a retweet at ‘twitter’, a smiley at ‘whatsapp’ or a heart at ‘tinder’ to express your feelings or to handle other’s feelings. #emoji #tindern.

When you otherwise get to know people in the offline world you are confronted with natural circumstances of the personal interaction. The fear of rejection, however, is no longer a problem since ‘tinder’. You cannot fail, because you are only interact with people, who are also interested. According to this, the problem I see in ‘tinder’ respectively in the in the conditions of today’s love-market is, on the one hand, the superficiality and the flood, the wide variety of potential partners that never seem to have an end or bottom. Every ‘match’ is a boost and a rejection is hardly noticeable.#blackbox On the other hand, I see the difficulty that our interpersonal codes are disappearing with such a way of dating and the digital self-representation gets a high significance for our identity.#communication ‘Tinder’ is, therefore, representing an attitude of an urban generation united in an app.

There are so many singles nowadays following this principle and a reason might be the former thoughts of the ideal of self-optimization and the insecurity in making decisions. If we have a problem in a relationship we rather do not solve the problem or better let it not turn it into a relationship so that problems aren’t obligated to us. But in the end, you need to ask yourself, which meaning phrases like ‘I don’t want to commit or I want to concentrate on myself’ really have. They are describing the condition that you went the simple way and you didn’t need to make a decision. When you are reflecting yourself, you see that these things are escapes and the best escape we call ‘Mingle’ this time. It is just an excuse and a label that people rearrange into a social-embedded argument for themselves. The attribution that someone is not able to keep up a relationship or that the ‘Mingle’ construct is the upcoming manner of leading relationships, is therefore a welcomed evasion when striving for certainty and covering up the uncertainty in our areas of life.

_{[1]http://journal-bmp.de/2015/12/match-me-if-you-can-eine-explorative-studie-zur-beschreibung-der-nutzung-von-tinder/} 

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